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Whether you are dealing with a difficult breakup or looking to reclaim your mojo after having a baby, confidence is always key. However, building confidence is a lifelong journey - and requires a lot of introspection and hard work.
This is because, to begin with, you need to learn to be kind to yourself so that you can accept yourself for who you truly are. This means you need to stop spending hours scrolling through (heavily edited) social media images and learn to love the person staring back at you in the mirror - quirks and all.
With that in mind, here are some tips you can use to unlock your confidence in time for summer!
Put together a simple skincare routine that deals with any specific issues you may face. For example, those with dry skin should focus on using products that are heavily moisturizing, giving you a natural, youthful glow. It's really important that you ensure that you use sunscreen every day, no matter what your skin type and especially if you are trying to figure out how to deal with skin redness. When you start taking better care of your skin, you’ll begin to feel more confident.
Take a look through your wardrobe and throw away any outfits that you don’t feel comfortable in. If it's too small - chuck it! You don't need that kind of negativity in your life. Then, treat yourself to a spot of shopping - ensuring that you only buy clothes that make you feel good and won’t be a cause of worry when you are heading out for the day. If you aren’t sure where to look, consider looking for a personal shopper who can help you pick out some outfits that compliment your figure and match your unique style.
Each morning, try to recite three positive things about yourself while looking at your reflection. This behaviour, when repeated, can help subtly change how you think about yourself, forcing negativity to take a back seat. Affirmations can be really effective! These compliments do not necessarily have to relate to your appearance (though it’s perfectly fine if they do!) but can cover a whole range of topics. For example, you might begin with statements such as, ‘I am confident because I am kind to others, I am confident because I always have something interesting to say, I am confident because I am good at my job’. I am not a very naturally confident person so I find affirmations really helpful.
Whenever you think negatively about yourself, take a step back from the situation and question what has made you feel that way. For example, if you begin to question your ability to get the job done at work - ask yourself why. Could it be that you are overburdened? Do you need to delegate some tasks to someone else or ask for help? Finding the cause of negative thinking can help you work towards a quicker resolution.
Instead of worrying about what others may think about you - start questioning what you think about them. For example, are you chasing affection from somebody who doesn’t reciprocate your energy and does not deserve the time you are giving them? Throw yourself into relationships where your energy is matched, and you are valued - and this will help your confidence grow leaps and bounds.
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